Bedside Portraits: On Hospice Time" all things created have an order in themselves" Canto I, Paradiso Dante We fear death. When it comes for us or a loved one we deny it. As it comes to pass we sense that dying could be gentler, more meaningful. We suspect there is an order to dying that we don't understand. Grief is nearly equaled by regret. Janine began her life of service helping her father, a self taught nurse, provide healthcare to the poorest people in the mountains of Mexico.