Opting in: Having a Child Without Losing YourselfFor contemporary women, motherhood has become as polarizing a proposition as it is a powerful calling. For some women this tension is manifest in a debate over whether or not to have children. For others it concerns whether to stay at home with their children or stay in the workforce. Still others feel abandoned altogether by the supposedly pro family and pro mother social justice movement that is feminism and are at a loss when it comes to